Parenting a spectrum of girls



I live in Michigan, pretty close to the lake shore…so lighthouses are a pretty big deal to a lot of people.  While I don’t collect them or go out of my way to see the number of beautiful lighthouses in my state, I do feel a certain fondness and awe of them.

Lighthouses let you know where you are, and remind you where you have been and where you are going.  They keep you from running aground and just the sight of one when you are on the water (especially when it is dark and stormy) brings relief.  You don’t have to ask for a lighthouse, they are just there, right where you need them, when you need them.

Of course Christ is THE lighthouse, but I am blessed to have a number of other beams of hope and comfort in my life.  The first one I think of is A, my youngest.  She is so easy going and loving.  She plays so well with M and actually feels bad for M when she has meltdowns rather than being upset (amazing for a 2 year old!)  She is always giving me hugs and kisses and telling me she loves me SO much, I am her best friend and she wants to be like me when she grows up.  She is funny, smart and sassy but rarely disobedient.  Not only is her love so wonderful, she is also a reminder that M’s problems are not due to bad parenting.  (Note…of course I also dearly love my oldest daughter K, I don’t mention her as a lighthouse because her high level of giftedness bring about their own struggles and special needs.)

I also have my amazing friends.  Much of my life I have not had many close friends, however the past couple of years that has changed.  I think this is largely because where before I did not want to leave my girls to go out, now I am willing to do this once in a while,  the combination of working part time and having days where I really know I will be a better mom and better able to deal with things for the next week if I get away for a couple hours.  I also have met many amazing women who have great kids the same age as mine & many who have children with special needs.  It is so amazing and refreshing to talk with others who REALLY understand!  While there are so many of you I know I can’t list you all, I want to really thank:
Rachel, Kim, Ashli, Petra, Maria, Suzette and Amber.

I have also been blessed with a wonderful husband.  While our relationship is not perfect, he is there for me and maybe most importantly, he is a great dad.  I know a lot of dads have a really hard time parenting Autistic children, not getting annoyed or being too harsh with them and just dealing with all of the chaos.  But Russell has been wonderful with her.  Not only that, he was there primary caregiver for a number of weekends over the past year when I was working a lot of them.

And my church.  It is an amazing place where everyone is so kind and welcoming.  The Sunday school teachers understand M’s difficulties (she usually has a hard time transitioning as drop off) and are great and patient with her (and with me, I have a hard time leaving her when she is clingy).  We love worship at our church, and the amazing messages from our pastor and the awesome guest speakers.  No matter how exhausted I feel when we get there, I always leave feeling refreshed and rejuvenated.  We have also been blessed with options…since I did work so many weekends, I was still able to attend service since they have them on Saturday night in addition to Sunday morning.

Thank you all for being a part of my life and sharing in our story.  Thank you for your friendship, words of encouragement, prayers and support.  Without all of you, and all of my grounding, guiding lighthouses it would be a much more difficult, lonely road…but with you I have the strength to keep treading water and pushing forward.

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  1. As I reread this (sorry for the annoying typos…grrr auto correct…and it’s hard to proofread on my phone) I realize I left out one important lighthouse…the childcare center my kids have attended for a number of years. The director and teachers are so wonderful. So patient, kind, professional, easy to talk to, helpful…and just amazing. They have kept a solid routine which has really helped M be able to cope and learn there, and given her the right mix of discipline and love. Again there are too many to list, but you all know who you are (and extra big thanks to Laura, the director, for everything. She could do what she has because of you and your staff…I could never thank you enough).

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