Parenting a spectrum of girls


This is not the post I planned to write tonight, but it is late, I am tired, and this needs to be written about anyway.

Today I enjoyed my girls (plus K’s best friend, but she counts as one of my girls).  I woke early (the little ones don’t know how to sleep in) and made a time consuming but delicious breakfast.  M had a rough morning & didn’t want to leave the house and A barely slept the night before but after lunch & a nap they were finally ready to head to the park/playground for a play date.  We enjoyed the outdoors, then I surprised them with ice cream.  At home they played in the sandbox and we all went for a walk.


M & A at the playground today

Then, although I love my children dearly and although M (with her newly rediscovered separation anxiety) begged me to stay with her forever & ever, I did something I needed to do but rarely make time for.

I went out with my girlfriends.

Those of you in the special needs community, and probably most moms (since we tend to put ourselves last) have heard the Oxygen Mask Theory.  In an airplane when going over safety procedures they remind you to put your own oxygen mask on before you help other people with theirs, even your children.  This is because if you don’t get your mask on and you pass out, you can’t help anyone else at all.  I don’t know if I could put my own oxygen mask on first, but that’s kind of beside the point (or is it?). So the theory is that as moms and especially special needs moms, we need to put on the metaphorical oxygen mask and give ourselves what we need to rest, recharge & refresh or we really aren’t going to be any good for our families.  Without those moments we run & run until we are empty & have nothing left to give.

Tonight I took that time to refresh, rest & recharge.  I went out for dinner with my two best friends on the planet, who also have children with special needs.  We enjoyed some amazing food & drink (that our children would probably never touch anyway) but best of all some wonderful grownup conversation without interruptions or little ears.  It was just what I needed.  Take the time to do whatever it is that refreshes you, as often as you need to.  Thank you ladies for being my refreshment, my oxygen mask.  You are so appreciated!

Comments on: "Refresh" (2)

  1. Thanks for putting this thought out there – it’s true for any caregiver. As the wife of a man dealing with depression, anxiety, panic, and ADHD, I know that if I don’t take care of myself not only will I be unable to help him, but the depressed mood that is rampant in our house will affect me. I appreciate your reminder!

    • Absolutely, those thoughts & feelings creep in any time we are worn out, it is much more difficult to keep them at bay when you live with a loved one who is consumed with those thoughts & feelings anyway. I hope you are able to get away & refresh too. (Hugs)

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Tag Cloud

Life is all about how you handle Plan B.....

enjoy every moment, even the unexpected.

Gifted Atlanta

A resource for parents of bright and talented children

Writings of a Mrs Mommy

Writings of a Mrs. Mommy is the Mommy blog to my Writings of a Mrs's blog. This blog will be more about my busy life with 8 children and the many adventures on how the Mrs. and Mr. manage it all! Humor, stress, love, food and photos will be the main focus. Alex and Jenn plus kids make TEN!

Ginger Snaps

escapades in life, autism, and other shenanigans

Mama Gets Real

Mamahood is better when you are surrounded by Mamas.

This Side of Typical

Autism + Parenting + Peach Schnapps. Crazy Straw optional.

Laughing Through Tears

Two moms, four kids, many cocktails.

Musings of an Aspie

one woman's thoughts about life on the spectrum

the fairly good mother

... because you don't have to be perfect to be awesome ...

To Be Aware

It's all about disbelieving your thoughts

The True Power of Parenting

Emotional Intelligence for a Bright and Successful Future

The World of Special Olympics

The sun never sets on our Special Olympics Movement. See what's happening now...


everything a mama could want

The Voice from the Backseat

One voice, and the journey along the way


When will we ever learn?: Common sense and nonsense about today's public schools in America.

infinite hope | the national equity project blog archive

Creating a world that works for all of us.

%d bloggers like this: