This is not the post I planned to write tonight, but it is late, I am tired, and this needs to be written about anyway.
Today I enjoyed my girls (plus K’s best friend, but she counts as one of my girls). I woke early (the little ones don’t know how to sleep in) and made a time consuming but delicious breakfast. M had a rough morning & didn’t want to leave the house and A barely slept the night before but after lunch & a nap they were finally ready to head to the park/playground for a play date. We enjoyed the outdoors, then I surprised them with ice cream. At home they played in the sandbox and we all went for a walk.
Then, although I love my children dearly and although M (with her newly rediscovered separation anxiety) begged me to stay with her forever & ever, I did something I needed to do but rarely make time for.
I went out with my girlfriends.
Those of you in the special needs community, and probably most moms (since we tend to put ourselves last) have heard the Oxygen Mask Theory. In an airplane when going over safety procedures they remind you to put your own oxygen mask on before you help other people with theirs, even your children. This is because if you don’t get your mask on and you pass out, you can’t help anyone else at all. I don’t know if I could put my own oxygen mask on first, but that’s kind of beside the point (or is it?). So the theory is that as moms and especially special needs moms, we need to put on the metaphorical oxygen mask and give ourselves what we need to rest, recharge & refresh or we really aren’t going to be any good for our families. Without those moments we run & run until we are empty & have nothing left to give.
Tonight I took that time to refresh, rest & recharge. I went out for dinner with my two best friends on the planet, who also have children with special needs. We enjoyed some amazing food & drink (that our children would probably never touch anyway) but best of all some wonderful grownup conversation without interruptions or little ears. It was just what I needed. Take the time to do whatever it is that refreshes you, as often as you need to. Thank you ladies for being my refreshment, my oxygen mask. You are so appreciated!