For day 3 of Thankful November I am thankful for my husband.
I don’t mention him much or blog about my marriage for a number of reasons. First, this is primarily a blog about parenting children with special needs. Also, it was my decision to blog and make parts of my life public, not his. I doubt that is something he would ever choose to do, and I respect his privacy.
Ours is not a bring-you-to-happy-tears marriage. We have had more downs than ups in the 6 1/2 years we have been married, there has been a lot of hurt, a lot of struggling to forgive and choosing to love even when it’s hard to do. None the less, I am thankful for my husband for many reasons.
We agree (for the most part) on religion and politics, and that sure helps this time of the election cycle! He gets my sometimes weird sense of humor and tries to give me alone time when I need it. He loves Kaity (who is not his biological child) and treats her the same as the other girls (who are). He acknowledges that when it comes to parenting and decisions regarding the girls, I am both knowledgeable and intuitive and trusts me to make the right decisions…and he is a good dad, enjoying spending time with them. He is a hard worker and has a good work ethic. He supports me going back to school and working part time to be with the girls more. He let me get the cats, even though he doesn’t like cats (though I think ours have grown on him). He still leaves me cards and candy on occasion, especially when I’ve had a bad week (or he’s in the dog house lol). And most of all, no matter what the reason, divorce is not an option for either of us…I think just agreeing on that, that the option is never even on the table, forces us to get through the very worst of times and move on to making things better.
So dear, I know I don’t say it enough, but thank you for asking me to marry you on the playground almost 7 years ago. And yes, I am still glad I said yes.